In every facet of life, we struggle with getting others to see the vision we have for ourselves. Likewise, we struggle to see the visions others may have. It is more difficult when we try to assume the values of others or when others want or expect us to assume their values. This disparity is
…The dirty word no one wants to hear – especially not those who struggle from addiction. Is it food, sex, drugs, rock and roll, gambling or alcohol you crave? Well why don’t you just stop? Should you stop? Must you stop? Social outlets have a meaningful and necessary place in the human condition. So, not
I know a person who is forced to do things every day. She must answer to the same call and perform the same menial tasks in order to keep her mental anguish at bay. She is forced to harm herself. She is made to feel ill and depressed and ashamed. She is physically assaulted but
Using your own scale of comparison, the determination of potential benefits of substances are completely subjective – until they become objective reality. Can we realistically think of a time when our use of drugs or alcohol has been of benefit to us? For many, a drink or a drug are a social outlet and a
Self-worth and Confidence are very powerful tools of the subconscious mind. Just as powerful, however, are the limiting beliefs that we tell ourselves like a skipping record (or mp3!) or a tape loop. Some of these beliefs may be rooted in our brains since childhood and have such a strong position in our sense of
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy is a thought intervention therapy claiming our behaviors are a direct response to our feelings or perceptions about thought. CBT seeks to change not only our thought patterns but, also our interpretation of our thoughts, thus, changing our feelings as a result. This process is the foundation for a great deal of
Many who suffer from addictions are faced with hard questions. Indeed, it is those tough issues that may have led them down the road to addiction to begin with. Perhaps the toughest question we all must face is, in light of our bad habits or overall neglect, are we prepared for the consequences? For the
Who are we comparing ourselves to? Why do we feel that we must be what others tell us to be or that we need to live up to a standard set by others? When we continue to “should” all over ourselves, we are preventing ourselves from becoming self-actualized or freely expressed into the person we
There are so many things that we “awful-ize.” There are situations we do not wish to confront for fear of a perceived negative effect. We imprison ourselves in the thoughts leading up to or the consequences resulting from an event to the extent that we create a self-fulfilling prophecy. High performers know that part of
Be careful to look all around you. If you are struggling to maintain discipline in any aspect of your life, check your blind spots. Before you veer off path, look at what is creeping up beside you and waiting in the shadows to ambush you. Get tough and stay the course you have set. There
